“I needed to let go of this different individual for the sake of this metamorphosis and simply help the individual I really like,” Shawn mentioned.
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The Brazilian native did so by having her finest good friend translate a letter she wrote to Douglas, telling her youthful self, “You had been my basis, however now it’s time for me to fly.” Throughout her goodbye letter to Douglas, Shawn sat beside Alliya as she tearfully left her previous behind.
In an unique interview with Distractify, Shawn instructed us why supporting Alliya regardless of his emotions was crucial.
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Shawn from ‘90 Day Fiance: Love in Paradise’ says it was important to help Alliya regardless of being “unhappy” about Douglas.
Alliya’s goodbye letter to Douglas coincided with dressing and styling her hair extra femininely. All through the season, Shawn has expressed the challenges that may come when a associate embraces one other facet of themselves throughout a relationship.
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Nonetheless, Shawn was with Alliya and helped consolation her as she learn her goodbye letter. He mentioned that whereas he was “very unhappy,” he additionally needed to let go of Douglas; he knew it was vital to “considerably signify the individuals across the individual going by way of this modification” and mentioned it’s not as talked about accurately.
“As they’re discovering themselves of their rising into who they need to be authentically, they’re getting happier and happier, however the individuals round them is perhaps getting extra affected, and I used to be affected in a really unhappy method,” Shawn mentioned of his and Alliya’s relationship. “I felt I needed to let go of this different individual for the sake of this metamorphosis and simply help the individual I really like, however there’s a value to that. It isn’t straightforward, and so you realize there’s this wrestle between the happiness and the unhappiness.”
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Shawn needs he might “say goodbye to Douglas” earlier than ‘90 Day Fiance: Love in Paradise.’
Shawn’s grief for Douglas is usually explored throughout their time on 90 Day Fiance: Love in Paradise. He instructed us a big a part of his grief was that, though Alliya might let go of Douglas in her personal method, he couldn’t.
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Shawn shared that Alliya’s transition occurred once they had been of their respective nations, and he didn’t know the final time they had been collectively can be the final time he noticed that facet of her. He additionally mentioned since there was no speaking or “nurturing” Alliya’s transition beforehand, he felt just like the reveal was “jarring” and “like a automotive crash.”
“It was jarring as a result of I did not anticipate that,” he mentioned of Alliya. “I felt so unhappy that I did not get to say goodbye to Douglas. I by no means had any closure. In order that was actually exhausting.”
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And whereas Shawn is aware of he might by no means get the closure he wishes, he’s glad and in love with who Alliya is right now and desires to proceed being round for her journey.
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“The individual going by way of this in all probability is aware of that this is a matter for them for years and years and years,” he mentioned. “They usually’ve been saying or eager to say goodbye and shed their outdated pores and skin and change into the brand new individual that they at all times needed. So, if you happen to’re a very good associate, you need your associate to be glad.”
Catch Shawn and Alliya on 90 Day Fiance: Love in Paradise. New episodes air on TLC on Mondays at 8 p.m. EST.