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It may appear straightforward to foresee what {a magazine} mogul like Dylan Jones would come with in his memoir. Superstar events starring among the largest names within the ’biz. Salacious tales about politicians and main media varieties. The veritable highs and lows of working a shiny journal for greater than 20 years. You count on to giggle, goggle, and cringe. What you don’t count on, maybe, is to cry.
That is what occurred with me, I inform him. “Oh!” he says, greater than a little bit shocked, as we settle into a gathering room within the workplaces of the Night Normal, the place he has been editor-in-chief since June 2023 – a serious shift from his 22-year-long tenure as editor of British GQ. Jones’s CV just isn’t what moved me, although. As a result of beneath the glitz and the gloss – all of which is there – are insights into an extremely abusive childhood, and the revelation that he was raped at 17 years outdated, one thing he’d by no means beforehand disclosed. Within the guide, he confesses that he discovered the method of opening up on the web page troublesome. “The entire thing felt pointless, like being crushed up by my father,” he writes.
However Jones appears confused by my response, as if he didn’t count on me to acknowledge the emotional parts of his guide – or not less than not at first. Because the writer of 27 different titles, Jones is not any stranger to long-form writing. From David Bowie and U2 to Jim Morrison and David Cameron, the 64-year-old has lined a gamut of topics that span popular culture to politics. Writing about himself, although, had by no means actually been part of the plan. “It wasn’t my concept,” the 64-year-old says of the memoir he has now written, titled These Silly Issues. “Once I left Condé [Nast, the publishing company that owns GQ], my agent instructed it and I mentioned no. It didn’t actually sit simply as a result of it felt a bit, ‘me, me, me’.”
Initially, the guide featured little or no about Jones’s private life. It was solely after encouragement from his household that he determined to open up. “It’s simply one thing that’s not notably pure to me,” he says. Subsequently, a lot of the guide focuses on his ascent from Excessive Wycombe Eighties membership child to high-flying shiny journal editor. It’s a trajectory that started considerably serendipitously in 1983 after Jones graduated from Central Saint Martins and had been “bouncing round dead-end jobs” – one in every of which was promoting intercourse toys in a store on Portobello Street.
Out of nowhere, a photographer buddy requested if Jones may interview just a few individuals he was taking pictures for counterculture bible, i-D; shortly after, editor Terry Jones provided him a job. The remaining unfurls from there: 4 years at i-D was an editorship at Area, a month-to-month males’s title launched by Nick Logan, founding father of The Face, the place Jones additionally turned a daily contributor. Subsequent got here a transition to newspapers – The Observer Journal and The Sunday Instances – after which it was on to [British] GQ. Right here, he reworked the month-to-month title right into a cultural behemoth famed for its tongue-in-cheek covers – assume Kylie Minogue recreating the well-known Tennis Lady poster in 2000 – and annual GQ Males of the Yr Awards. Jones remained editor-in-chief till 2021, when Condé Nast introduced it could be merging its editorial groups as a part of a brand new world digital-first technique. Most of Jones’s crew exited on the identical time.
“After we all left Condé Nast, I imply, some individuals had been handled very badly,” he says. “And I mentioned, look, get indignant. However recover from it fairly shortly, as a result of we had a implausible time.” Boy, did they. Of all of the celeb anecdotes within the guide, and there are numerous (together with a corker of a gathering with Shirley Maclaine: “you possibly can actually ask her something; she was by no means going to learn it”), they enter the higher echelons throughout Jones’s GQ years, studying much less like reality and extra like fiction extracted from an F Scott Fitzgerald guide, every identify turning into a extra egregious caricature within the modern charade we name fame. There are dinners with Paul McCartney, heated spats with legendary photographer David Bailey (“a cantankerous sod”) and lots of unusual – and nameless – divas, together with the spouse of a British actor who insisted on being pushed to the GQ Males of the Yr Awards in a bulletproof automobile, and a “massively profitable feminine singer” who arrived late to the annual occasion solely to inform individuals backstage, “I’m so sorry, I reek of c**ok.”
Recurrent characters in the course of the GQ years embrace Keith Richards, Elton John, Tracey Emin, Damien Hirst, and David Bowie. “It was a large celebration of expertise,” Jones says of the Males of the Yr Awards, which drew in such high-calibre names 12 months after 12 months. “The people who we had been actually fascinated about had been the legends.” We concur that, typically talking, probably the most well-known celebrities are often the least affected and subsequently, the nicest. Regardless of the avid name-dropping, which one evaluate described as “a pathology”, Jones insists he’s associates with “hardly any” celebrities. “I believe it’s a really difficult relationship for some individuals,” he says, recalling how this turned abundantly clear after lunch at a photographer’s home. “It was full of images of him with well-known individuals. I believed to myself, should you go to the homes of all these well-known individuals, he’s not going to be in any of their photographs. And I believe that’s fairly unhappy.”
It’s not like Jones is genuflecting on the altar of everybody he mentions, both; many now-disgraced figures characteristic. There’s Harvey Weinstein (“didn’t notably like him”); Philip Inexperienced (“he’s accomplished some irregular issues”); Russell Model (“all the time thought he was an oaf”). He’s nonetheless on good phrases with David Cameron, whom he as soon as spent a 12 months interviewing for a guide they labored on collectively the 12 months earlier than he turned PM. “I ran into him on the [Chelsea] Flower Present and found moderately weirdly that he follows me on Instagram. I believe he has made horrible errors, however many politicians do.”
Jones is the previous editor of two main males’s magazines, one in every of which used to famously have a “Women” part on its web site, however he’s additionally the daddy of two daughters, aged 25 and 23. Did his work affect his strategy to elevating younger ladies? “I very a lot hope that no matter I did at work didn’t have an effect on the best way that I helped convey up my daughters,” he quips. “And my spouse introduced up our daughters. I used to be at work quite a bit and she or he bore the brunt of the whole lot, despite the fact that she had a full-time job. However I believe we introduced them up fairly nicely. I naively thought I used to be going to be a stylish dad.” Wasn’t he? “I imply, I used to be only a dad,” he laughs. “Though they appreciated getting free tickets to issues. And assembly Harry Kinds.” He says all this very matter of factly; does he remorse not being round for his household extra? “No, as a result of I used to be round sufficient. And I used to be all the time excellent at taking holidays.”
I’ve been accused of being dismissive, however it’s my life, I may be dismissive if I need to be
Dylan Jones
Not lengthy into our interview it turns into clear that, regardless of the actual fact we’re right here to debate his memoir, Jones would moderately discuss nearly something and anybody else aside from himself. He’s fast to rebuff emotional topics, and bats away any query that scratches beneath the shiny veneer he appears to have spent many years crafting. Within the guide, Jones writes in visceral element how his “extremely violent” RAF veteran father bodily abused him and his mom, who was bisexual and would sporadically vanish to be with ladies she had relationships with. This, Jones displays, left him to fend for himself, “permitting [his] father to practise extra hours of unsupervised torture” every day to such a level that it left Jones with a stammer.
“It’s not meant to make individuals really feel sorry for me,” he says shortly. “It’s simply the reality.” Jones has written about his abusive childhood earlier than, most notably in a 2017 article for British GQ wherein he recalled trialling a week-long private progress course named The Hoffman Course of. However the guide dives into extra element; did it spark any conversations with individuals near him? “Yeah, lots of people had been very shocked,” he says. Has it opened the door to deeper conversations? “No, I don’t assume so, as a result of I don’t notably need to have them. I’m not that sort of individual. And I’ve been accused of being dismissive, however it’s my life, I may be dismissive if I need to be.”
Jones was an adolescent when he was raped; his attacker was somebody of their thirties, who Jones vaguely knew. “My first ideas had been: this isn’t proper. And it hurts. I used to be 17 and nonetheless a virgin, solely now I wasn’t,” he writes.
I’m curious as to why he hasn’t spoken about it till now. “As a result of I didn’t assume that my response to it was notably useful,” he says. “I nearly by no means give it some thought. I used to be initially fairly embarrassed, however that lasted a couple of week. And I didn’t assume that was an excellent instance as a result of I do know fairly just a few individuals who have been raped, I believe a number of individuals do. And it’s traumatising, and it wasn’t for me.”
Within the guide, Jones describes himself as “detached” in direction of it. I ask extra about this, noting how, within the aforementioned GQ piece, he wrote that denial is a manifestation of an abused childhood. Is he actually detached, or in denial? “Properly, I believe each issues can be true,” he says, earlier than pausing. “Truly, I don’t know the reply to that query. What I do know is that my long-standing, long-suffering therapist, who I sometimes see, mentioned to me as soon as, ‘Look, you’re not meant to place issues in bins. You’re meant to embrace the whole lot and to cope with it. However should you can put issues in bins and that works for you, that’s nice.’”
It’s clearly difficult territory. However, regardless of Jones’s unease, sharing his story has positively impacted others; different survivors have been getting in contact for the reason that guide got here out. “I’ve had a few nameless messages,” he provides. “And truly a observe from somebody I do know.” A male rape survivor? “Sure.” He pauses and, presumably eager to distance himself from the trauma of others, returns behind the veneer. “However you recognize… individuals… they’ve bought to say one thing. Folks have been good, should you’re going to say one thing, you in all probability need to say one thing fairly encouraging and optimistic.” He faucets the duvet of his guide on the desk in entrance of us. “Good color, you recognize, good emblem color.”
Our time collectively is sort of up – Jones is working a newspaper, in any case. Does he see a hyperlink between his drive for achievement and his abusive childhood? “I don’t assume I’ve lusted after a life that I didn’t have, however I actually needed to achieve success,” he says. “And there was some drive there. I say this to my ladies: should you get enthusiastic about one thing, simply pursue it. As a result of that’s the factor you need. That’s the factor that’s going to propel you thru life. And should you discover it at a younger age, you’re fortunate.”